I set myself up to fail at least a dozen times every day because I think in absolutes. I say things like, “I will not have a single piece of chocolate this week” knowing that statement has zero validity. And then I feel so guilty when I eat chocolate (What’s a girl supposed to do when her neighbor brings over a huge plate of cookies? Can you blame me?).
The issue with this kind of thinking comes down to one word: control. Sometimes I lack the self-control to make ideas into realities, and sometimes there are circumstances outside my control (like having a super nice neighbor).
Now the self-control part is something I’m just going to have to work on (bummer). But I’ve decided to make it a real goal this week to give myself a little more leeway on the stuff I can’t control. See, I’m going to write it down (experts say it’s not a goal until you actually put it on paper…or screen):
This week I’m not going to give myself a hard time about the stuff I can’t control.
I already feel better. You should make a goal too. Anyone have a goal they want to share? You can post it in comments and then it will be real.
P.S. Have you voted on the What-If entries? You only have till Friday to post which scenario was your favorite! Go here to vote!
P.S.S. I’m sorry I haven’t commented on your posts or on your blogs lately. Blogger won’t let me post comments…not even on my own blog! Is there some setting I need to change? Anyone know?
I don’t know about the comment thing, but I too have problems with absolutes. I’m not so good at giving myself or anyone else leeway, so good luck with your goal!!!
Blogger’s had some issues of late.
I suggest parcel expressing any and all chocolate my way.
There are a lot of goals I should be writing down. Actually, some of the ones I wrote down I’m not even working on. I’m just bad all over the place. It’s summer. Is that a good excuse?
Good luck with your goals!